My friend Jill
My friend Jill, she’s a newer friend to me but one of the one’s who really makes a difference.
Jill is a life coach at one of the yoga studios I teach at. Our paths have crossed many times over the years with pleasantries. Last year, right around this time, we set out to work on a project together which helped to connect us a bit deeper than ‘hello’.
This week Jill posted about a workshop she had been working tirelessly on. She spoke on her inspiration, her personal connection to the topic and how she knew that this beautiful offering she created would make waves in peoples’ lives.
Well, her workshop was cancelled. No one was interested, at this time, in signing up. She didn’t just sit there and complain about her situation, instead she started to dissect what disappointment meant for her.
How vulnerable. First, to admit you’re even disappointed. I have found myself, so many times, feeling disappointed, and working hard to ‘write it off’ or ‘sweep it away’. Telling myself, “oh yeah I didn’t really want XYZ anyway”. Or even better, blame, “I would’ve gotten it if it wasn’t for such and such reason”. Disappointment is so common and such a hard pill.
Jill continued talking about her perspective on disappointment as it does not reflect on one’s self worth but rather on value.
Being disappointed shows us what is important to us. As does nervousness and anxiety. Where being nervous and anxious shows us what we value before we have any statistics on the matter, disappointment comes with statistics. Because disappointment feeling arrives after the important matter at hand has been tested. Fear of loss. Fear itself.
So what do we do with statistics? We use them to make a more aligned decision in the future. But first we do the most important step, we feel our feelings. We feel the disappointment, we let ourselves be uncomfortable in the unexplainable. Then we use that data of what is important to us to continue moving forward in our kraft.
My friend Jill, I told you she was a good one. One of those valuable people who help you to slow down and think about the value and intricacies of life. The one’s who admit their disappointment and shame. Hard and real truths of life.
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